“To raise a child to be independent, strong, and confident is the greatest success we can be proud of as adults.” – Anonymous


Self-confidence comes from each person. Children develop self-confidence not because family and friends praise them but because of their accomplishments. As teachers, the author sees that many children are confident when they learn, complete assignments, and succeed in doing something given.

It is natural when you as a parent want to build trust in your children. Children who grow up confident will believe in themselves and able to face new challenges without being hindered by fear. This is an important factor for children to enjoy a happy and satisfying life.

Even though every child is different, there are seven things you can do to build your child’s confidence.

  1. Helping children learn to do something. At every age, there are new things that children will learn. As children grow, they will learn to do many things like how to dress, read, or ride a bike. You can help your child in the process of learning new things. It will provide opportunities for children to increase their self-esteem.
  2. Give examples when teaching children. When introducing new things and teaching children to do something new, give them an example at the beginning. Then, let them do what they can even if they make mistakes. Make sure your child has opportunities to learn, try, and feel proud.
  3. Give praise/ compliment wisely. It is a good thing to give the child praise/ compliment. It is a way of showing that you are proud of their accomplishments, small or big things. However, several ways of praising children may hurt them and bring negative effects. Here is how to do it right:
  • Realistic praise. Over-praise is just not right. For example, telling a child that they played a good game when they found out that they did not will make them feel empty and fake. It is better to say, “I know it’s not your best game, but we all have a day off. I’m proud of you for not giving up.”
  • Praise their efforts. Avoid focusing praise only on results (such as getting an A) or qualities (such as being smart or athletic). Give your compliments for their efforts, progress, and attitudes. With praise like this, the child will strive, work towards goals, and try to try to do each process well without focusing only on results.
  1. Be a good role model. When you try to do everyday tasks like preparing food and cleaning the house, you can set a good example. Children will learn to do something well when they see good examples from their parents. When you do tasks cheerfully without complaining, you teach children to do the same.
  2. Shows how to appreciate and love yourself. Before teaching this, you must first love yourself before you can teach children. You can model this behavior by rewarding and praising yourself when you are doing well. When you get a promotion at work, you can celebrate your success with your child. As you celebrate, you can remind your child of the skills they have and how they can be developed and useful.
  3. Support children’s interests and talents. Every child will excel at something. As a parent, respect and encourage your children’s interests even when you find their interests are not very attractive. Praise your child when they accomplish something. If your child’s talent is playing guitar in a band, support their interests as long as it does not interfere with responsibilities like schoolwork.
  4. Encourage children to do physical activity. Exercise helps children grow self-confidence. They learn that they can practice, develop, and achieve goals. Another advantage of doing physical activities such as sports is that they learn to understand their strengths, accept, or strengthen their weaknesses, handle defeats, expand the circle of friends and learn about cooperation. You can find a physical activity that they enjoy, whether it is dancing, martial arts, or cycling.

May 9, 2021

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